Marriage Life Tips - Unique Ways to Apologize to Your Partner Based on Different Situations

As much as you want to always be ‘right’ in your relationship, you are not perfect and at times, you can do things that will disappoint your partner. Here are some of the most common reasons why feuds spark in a relationship.

1. You spent too much time with your friends or at work

A lot of people are guilty of this. Your partner can be very understanding but they really need your time. And make sure you are focused when you are with them!

2. You embarrassed your partner in front of other people

There are times that you embarrass your partner – without even noticing it! You might think it’s a shallow joke about weight or choice of clothes or mannerisms at home but these things are quite personal and you might hurt your partner’s feelings.

3. You spent too much on an item which you didn’t talk about

Even if you are earning decent amount of cash, financial decisions play a big role in one’s relationship. You have to set boundaries on expensive purchases and you need to get one’s approval.

4. You said something hurtful during a petty fight

A small feud can turn into a big one most especially if both of you are trying to win the fight. Some will even go as far as saying ‘below the belt’ lines.

5. Flirted with someone

Or maybe not exactly ‘flirted’ but didn’t exert too much effort in avoiding a person who’s obviously trying to seduce you. 

Unfortunately, some people do not know how to properly apologize to their partners. They thought that saying, ‘I’m Sorry’ is just enough to make all things right again. The thing is, one should know the value of being sorry. We should also learn the proper timing and even the words to say. Here are some general tips to follow.

• Know what you did wrong – It’s hard to apologize when you don’t even know what you are sorry for. Sit down, think of why your partner got disappointed and be open – minded. Even if you think you are right, always remember that there are 2 sides of the coin.

• Calm down – Most people think that the sooner you apologize, the better. This is of course, true. However, one must be calm in doing so. You can’t genuinely apologize if your emotions are still high. Give it time, drink water and be at peace before you go to your partner.

• Choose your words – This is very important! You need to choose your words. In fact, it would be a great idea if you rehearse first. I highly encourage for you not to defend your actions like saying, ‘I’m sorry but you are wrong’. It will just create another conflict which we don’t want to start. Acknowledge your mistake and also your partner’s feelings.  

• Know the perfect time to say sorry – Don’t try to apologize when your partner is busy with work or spending time with friends. Make it intimate, except if you are planning to apologize in public.

You still can’t do it? You think it’s hard to apologize? Honey, it’s about time that you learn how to lower your pride and apologize when necessary. A genuine verbal apology is always good, but it would be better if you level up your game. How can you do that? Let me give you some of the most creative and unique ways to apologize to your partner.

• Old – school handwritten letter – There is something really romantic about writing letters. Emails and SMS will not do the trick. Pour your feelings out, but again, choose your words because you wouldn’t want to pick another fight. Try to leave the letter in places your partner would not expect. For example, you can sneak it in the car. Perhaps, you can slide it in the suite case. Or why not place it in your mailbox when your partner regularly checks it.

• Cook your partner’s favorite meal – It doesn’t matter if you are a good cook or not. After all, you can just do a quick research and try your best to cook your partner’s favorite meal. I’m sure they will appreciate your effort. Have a candlelit dinner to calm your nerves and take it from there. A breakfast in bed setup isn’t a bad idea too! Just make pancakes and prepare fruits. I’m sure you can throw something that will make their day right!

• Sing your theme song – You don’t have a golden voice? You can always lip synch! Trust me, it should have the same effect. If it is a slow song, you might as well invite your partner to dance with you. Reminisce the old days and sooner or later, both of you would realize why you got married in the first place.

• Movie marathon - Let’s just say, your partner loves action and you love rom – com. Choose action packed movies this time as your way of apologizing. Prepare some popcorn and get ready not just for the movie marathon but for a ‘cuddle’ marathon.

• A surprise vacation – Just make sure that it will not break your savings. Otherwise, prepare for another war. This can be just a simple hiking adventure hours away from your home. Or maybe, you can just rent a cottage at a nearby lake. You guys are in need of a vacation to keep a fresh perspective of things.

• Order personalized sweets – There are a lot of bakeries where you can get personalized cakes. Why don’t you order some of those? After all, who can resist sweets, right?  

• Deliver something special to your partner’s office – It can be flowers or pizza. Just know what will make them smile.

The goal here is to calm the waters. You can’t really resolve your problems if you would apologize while you are at the height of your emotions. Of course, I would still recommend that you fix your problems before you go to sleep. But if you think it will make it worse, don’t pressure yourself and apologize at the best time.   

Don’t make it a habit, though. You know, repeating the same mistake and just apologizing afterwards. If you have committed a mistake, spare no effort so that it will not happen again. Do not take your partner for granted. Even if you know their sweet spots, that shouldn’t give you the right to hurt them all over again. Just remember to do your part to maintain a healthy relationship.

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